I feel you on wondering if you're judging too harshly. A few of the folks on my friends list loved the book, and I value their opinions just as much as I do my own as well as those that disliked it, so I'm planning on examining the book after reading the entire series again (something I hadn't done before DH's release, and don't think it would have made any difference). I probably sound like a broken record, but I don't want to hate it for the sake of it, you know?

If it helps, JKR apparently doesn't re-read her books before writing the next one--so it's better than if she HAD reread them and still messed up, I guess.