Do not censor me.

Warning. Mostly TL;DR and related to something I hadn't yet had the chance to tell you guys about.

Most of you know I have a problem with anything I view as censorship. You all also know I'm an enthusiastic supporter of Sorting Communities, and am a member/have been a member of many of them.

One I was particularly excited about was dumbledoresarmy. Right about when I first was sorted, the maintainer and headmaster decided that it would be a good idea to go on hiatus for a while and get the current members more involved. I was disappointed because I wanted to make a post about the community to let the members of my friends list who are also interested in sorting communities to join, but I decided I'd just wait until the hiatus was lifted.

Meanwhile, I continued with my own process of membership. At that particular community, you become a full member by going through three processes--a sorting ceremony, a magical branch ceremony, and a private interview. I was so excited to share this with you guys because the sorting ceremony is completely blind--you don't see your votes until you're sorted, which I thought was really novel and interesting! The branch application helps members feel more connected by giving them a branch like Transfiguration, Care of Magical Creatures, etc to belong to. Finally comes the personal interview. I got my first email about it on August 19, at 4:42 in the morning:



That screenshot is important, because it shows the extent of our correspondence via email. I don't have a separate spam box or folder (which is why I have the side of the email window showing); all of my emails go to my inbox. That is the email address I use for private correspondence, and I get perhaps 4 spam emails a week, if that. The previous email had been regarding my offer to send my application to him with the html already coded in--because dumbledoresarmy reposts applications under idol's name to prevent the applicant from seeing the votes until they are unscreened, he would have had to hand-code my application himself otherwise.

Note: you may need to paste /?style=mine to view the images under the cut, as they are too large to show up on my journal. My apologies.
( Cut for my f-list's sake )

Does it make you feel good, deleting any comments that disagree with you? Can you not handle the idea that someone might criticize something, and other people might read it? Rather than prevent a 'battle,' you've started one, standing behind a paper tiger defense of trying to stop conflict before it starts by censoring someone who had been implied to be a liar. I didn't get your email, sir. I can't prove that to any DA members that read your post, and I am hurt that you're okay with letting them believe whatever they want of ME, while censoring them of what I think of YOU.

The best part is, the other members of the community have no idea what you deleted, and I can't tell them. The best part is your removing me from membership, without allowing me to leave on my own.

Controlling much? Do you think my first statement is so horrible that people will dislike me for making it? Is that why you reposted? I didn't delete it because I thought it was poorly worded. I deleted it because I wanted you to know how it felt to have information hidden, to have your own comment turned against you and be made to look unreasonable for it. I stand behind EVERY statement I made, and the ONLY reason this is behind a cut is because of the size of the images. I left them at original size because I didn't want to give any implication of deception.

To think I was on the edge of my seat excited to recommend this community to everyone on my friends list.

ETA: I'm banned from that community. As such, I'm unable to support thehangedwoman or anyone else who comments at that journal. Here's what was going to be my final say:

Last time I will post here for you to delete, I promise. Link: http://darsynia.livejournal.com/36592.html if you want to discuss things reasonably without the drama of having to delete what I say each time.

I just want to clarify, the only negative thing I said about you in the post you cited was this: The final slap in my face is the whole: ' I thought it would be easy to filter out those not as enthusiastic by drawing out the application process with three steps (including an interview!), but I obviously misjudged.' I held up MY part of that bargain. You did not. So who is the more enthusiastic?

Please, PLEASE tell me how that is 'bashing' you. I never recieved your email. You claim that you sent it. I am telling you how I feel, and given my opinion based on the evidence that I have (no email) that you did not hold up your end of a bargain. Those are not insults, please stop saying that they are. You feel put-opon and insulted; you believe that I have attacked you personally. This is simply not true. It's very possible that your email program had an error. It's possible that due to my ip's server problems, I never got the email that appears in your sent box. These are things that adults can talk over reasonably, not personal attacks and insults.

I just want to point out something here. You have removed my statements and tried to clean up after them, thinking that will accurately show the situation. I, however, have shown every single thing that has been said, documented it, and let it speak for itself. So tell me, which one of us is leaving a sour note? If you had simply tried to speak with me reasonably instead of telling me in your first response that I would be denied a chance to have a conversation with you, there wouldn't be a 'sour note' to complain about.

((Added this and posted on his private journal, which I fully expect to see deleted and me banned from there as well. Bad decision? Maybe, but I felt he needed to read it.))Banning me? That's just LOW, dude. What a temper tantrum.

IDOL: I do NOT intend on banning you. If you want to talk like ADULTS about this instead of banning and hiding comments and deleting things and assuming I hurt your feelings by disagreeing with you, please do. I welcome it.

Something I just have to say:

Person 1:
Hi. I disagree with you.

Person 2:
OMG YOU MEANIE!
HOW DARE YOU HURT MY FEELINGS?!
BANNED!!11!eleven!


LOL. Whatever, dude.